The "Get Scale"

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With the starter question, “Does He Like Me?” you must first understand The Get Scale. Who can "get" who?

This is the Fifth Couple – at about 2:50 minutes into the clip:

From When Harry Met Sally:
FIFTH WOMAN: He was the head counselor at the boys' camp, and I was the head counselor at the girls' camp. They had a social one night. (beat) And he walked across the room. I thought he was coming to talk to my friend Maxine, because people were always walking across rooms to talk to Maxine, but he was coming to talk to me.




Here's where power issues meet with sexual awakening - we've been aware that power and status and sex were all linked together since any of those items first come upon our consciousness - could we get the best looking guy in the class? a football player? a yearbook editor? First, second, third bad boy? Will people always walk across rooms to talk to us?

Please don't misunderstand me -- when I refer to The Get Scale, I do not mean the scale of real character and quality - just the perception -- basically the mathematical equivalent of The Hollywood Dweeb Marital Fallacy II - Marriage is a Mutual Trophy Acquisition Procedure.

It's still important to understand, tho - so you don't have an experience like Martha Dumptruck does in Heathers - about 1:50 minutes into this clip:


The Bad Heathers wrote a love note from the "cool" football star to the unattractive girl - and because she didn't understand everybody's ranking on The Get Scale, Martha, the unattractive girl, had a very bad day.

The Get Scale isn't the real measure of a person's actual value, but it is important to understand how it works if you are going to safely negotiate your own love life. Next - Get Scale Inequities.

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Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe

Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe.

No, not the actors, God bless them and grant them a measure of privacy, the characters they played in Cruel Intentions. Reese played a sweet virgin, and Ryan played the bad guy who pretended to be a good guy to get her into bed but accidentally fell in love with her, and suffice it to say, it does not end well.

We talked before that the three variables to work out in finding whether it’s true love start with Character – yours and his – and now we’re at:

(b) His character.

I know you don't believe me -- yet -- but whether your lover has a fine, upstanding character will not only provide gargantuan clues as to the authenticity of his love, but it will eventually determine if he completes your life or wrecks it beyond repair.



In Cruel Intentions, Ryan plans to pretend to love her just long enough – all the pretty things he says are lies. This is a common pattern in movies: (and in life, dear)

In Pillow Talk, a movie where Doris Day is exactly like you even though she’s a fictional ‘60’s character, Rock Hudson poses as Rex Stetson, tourist from Texas, polite, chivalrous and true. He says in a voiceover, “I’d say, five, or six dates ought to do it.” He has to pretend, because he knows she already knows he's an unapologetic jerk who wouldn’t get past an opening line if she knew his real name.



These guys can’t keep up the charade forever, though, which will take us to our second variable, Time.


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