Twilight and "You'll Love Me At Once"

Well, we’re going to have to re-visit the problem of “You’ll Love Me At Once” and the known issues of movies-into-brain-seeping. All because of Twilight.

Don’t get me wrong – I loved both the book and the movie. Just wanted to remind you all that in real life, when the most gorgeous guy on the planet suddenly and for no apparent reason says he’s fallen completely in love with you, it’s almost never going to prove to be real.

Of course, it’s possible. Sometimes two people are strong enough and have sufficient backbone to ignore society’s conventions and blah blah blah. But when you’re talking beautiful men – I mean, think about it – beautiful men always get their way the same way beautiful women always get their way.

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It can happen, as I was saying. My all-time favorite exposition of this scenario is in The Girl Can’t Help It, where the blonde bombshell Jayne Mansfield falls in love with her sad sack agent – and by the way, in real life Jayne Mansfield defied tradition by being one of the extremely few blonde bombshell actresses to have a happy marriage and raise normal children – the fab Mariska Hargitay is her daughter.

The Best That Could Happen:
Really, almost the best you could hope for would be a The Way We Were Scenario. If you haven’t seen it, go see it now. The rest of this paragraph is a spoiler: the plain, earnest, brilliant girl actually gets the gorgeous guy – he really loves her, too – and when it’s all said and done, it turns out she’s too good for him. When you’re beautiful, and when everything comes too easily for you, you never have to bother to become a real person.

The Way We Were used to be Part Of the Popular Culture; I’m not sure if it’s survived to permanence there, tho.

The Worst That Could Happen:
The worst that could happen is what happens to the genuinely unattractive girl in Heathers – Martha Dumptruck – she gets a love note from the cute, popular football player that turns out to have been written by the popular girls to humiliate her. The Mean Girl Rachel McAdams played so well had its origins in the Heathers in this movie.


What Does Generally Happen:
Two good movies to watch to demonstrate what does generally happen – three good movies to watch to demonstrate what does generally happen are: Suspicion, Gaslight, and Dogfight.

I mean, we’re talking Cary Grant when he’s young and gorgeous in Suspicion – tho note that Cary himself insisted that they change the ending of the movie – watch it, it’s obviously not the intended ending.

And Charles Boyer was intended to be, and may have been to the original audiences, foreign and mysterious and romantic and sexy, in Gaslight. Actually, if you’ve never seen Gaslight, you really need to, because it’s Part Of the Popular Culture. Characters on television shows are going to be saying “hey, are you Gaslighting me?” and you won’t know what they mean.

You may not want to watch Dogfight, because it’s kinda distressing, though it’s probably the most accurate. And it’s rated R, so you might not be old enough.

But back to Twilight – at least Bella didn’t skip over the First Variable in Finding True Love – Character. He did save her life; he was humble about it; he and his family did have a good general reputation in the community, and she didn’t sleep with him in the first movie, which is always a good decision.

Riahnna and Chris and True Love part II

Riahnna and Chris and true love part II (miss Part I?)

ShaundalynChic, I’ll get to your question at the end of this entry – first, I want to talk a bit more about Written on the Wind.

Okay, okay, it’s way melodrama, but it’s really well done for what it is, AND it gives you practically moment by moment, how one type of guy who hits gets the girl he winds up hitting.

Robert Stack is the archetypal rich drunken playboy who spots snappy no-nosense Laren Bacall and makes his standard play for her – the standard play is basically, “hi, I’m rich.”

That doesn’t work, and he goes to a different seduction con, “Little Boy Lost.” His father doesn’t understand him, he tries but can’t blah blah, “I find myself talking to you like I've never talked to anyone before ...”

Watch the movie – tell me if you don’t agree with me that Lauren Bacall marries him, not out of sudden, deep love, but because she thinks she can save him. The Invitation to Rescue. You can see how this can happen – sometimes he’s so sweet and fun, and rich, and from all appearances she’s the only one who can make him into what he really should be.

Everything happens in a whirlwind – because guys like this are spoiled babies who want what they want now, and because they’re afraid that once the girl really knows him she’ll run away.

He does really try; he stops drinking for about a year, but he's unreasonably jealous of Rock Hudson, and of course the first crisis brings him down, and he gets drunk and hits her. But even before that – pay attention – she’s not a wife, she’s a nanny, a nurse, an enforcer – is that a marriage?

If you’ve got a friend like Rihanna, sit down and watch this movie with her – see if you can get some real conversation going. It’s high drama, sure, but the characters are absolutely true.



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And, ShaundalynChic, the reason for Oliver! is the Nancy character – dark for a musical, I know – Bill beats her and eventually kills her, and through it all she says she’s so happy because he needs her – here’s her big musical number:



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