The "Get Scale"

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With the starter question, “Does He Like Me?” you must first understand The Get Scale. Who can "get" who?

This is the Fifth Couple – at about 2:50 minutes into the clip:

From When Harry Met Sally:
FIFTH WOMAN: He was the head counselor at the boys' camp, and I was the head counselor at the girls' camp. They had a social one night. (beat) And he walked across the room. I thought he was coming to talk to my friend Maxine, because people were always walking across rooms to talk to Maxine, but he was coming to talk to me.




Here's where power issues meet with sexual awakening - we've been aware that power and status and sex were all linked together since any of those items first come upon our consciousness - could we get the best looking guy in the class? a football player? a yearbook editor? First, second, third bad boy? Will people always walk across rooms to talk to us?

Please don't misunderstand me -- when I refer to The Get Scale, I do not mean the scale of real character and quality - just the perception -- basically the mathematical equivalent of The Hollywood Dweeb Marital Fallacy II - Marriage is a Mutual Trophy Acquisition Procedure.

It's still important to understand, tho - so you don't have an experience like Martha Dumptruck does in Heathers - about 1:50 minutes into this clip:


The Bad Heathers wrote a love note from the "cool" football star to the unattractive girl - and because she didn't understand everybody's ranking on The Get Scale, Martha, the unattractive girl, had a very bad day.

The Get Scale isn't the real measure of a person's actual value, but it is important to understand how it works if you are going to safely negotiate your own love life. Next - Get Scale Inequities.

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Hollywood Dweeb Fallacy II: Marriage is a Mutual Trophy Acquisition Procedure

The Hollywood Dweeb Marital Fallacy II:

Marriage is a Mutual Trophy Acquisition Procedure

In Hollywood, in Hollywood movies, in Junior High, the object of relationships is to show off, and personal happiness is a remote secondary issue.

Take Brittany Murphy’s character, Tai, in Clueless (still the best film adaptation of a Jane Austen novel). She actually really likes stoner dude Travis but is talked into liking Elton, higher on the social ladder but really kinda empty and soul-less and boring. (In the novel Emma, Harriet actually loves a cute farmer boy, but Emma talks her into loving the vicar, Mr. Elton). The Tai/Harriet character lets herself be persuaded that she can “get” someone higher on the social scale but is never really happy; she just thinks she should be happy.

Remember the three love factors: Character, Time, and Intuition. Ambition’s not there anywhere, is it? For fun, go through the three factors with the Cher/Emma character and Josh/Mr. Knightly – see the difference? She’s known him long enough to establish his true character, which is fine; and although intuition hits late, it hits hard: bingo – True Love.


"He could have anybody, and he wants me" is not the central issue of a love affair, at least outside junior high or Hollywood, although it always seems as if it should be. It probably has seeped into your brain – shake it off.

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